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Excuse the long story, Doc!
I met a girl on the bus who immediately showed great interest in me (she asked me a ton of questions and kept touching my arm) but the next day on the bus, she seemed to ignore me!
I asked her on a date, and she was very enthusiastic about the idea, almost jumping for joy; but when I asked her for her phone number, she told me that she usually didn't give it to strangers and that I should email her instead. I thought this was a little strange, but I sent her an email anyway - and got no response.
A couple of days later, I told her that I hadn't received her e-mail and she replied that she had been having problems with her computer and didn't have a chance to read it yet. I kept waiting in vain for her message until I finally decided to forget all about her.
I saw her again on the bus and kinda ignored her. After a few minutes, she changed seats to sit next to me. She then asked me if I wanted to go to a bar with her and have a drink. I said yes, and while we were there, she was all over me, asking me when we were going on our date because she couldn't wait any more! At that moment, she offered me her phone number, asked for mine, and made me promise to call her.
I asked her out and she accepted. Then the day before our date, she told me that a few of her friends she hardly ever sees asked her out on the same day and that I was invited to join them. I told her no, because she had a date with me that night and that she had to make up her mind to either go out with me or with her friends. She chose me, and we went out. It was fun, but she wasn't as flirty as before. In fact, she seemed a little nervous.
I later called her house for another date and her brother said she wasn't home. I left my phone number and asked him to have her call me back. She never called. She later told me that her brother told her "someone" had called, but not who. Of course, I didn't know if she was telling the truth.
When I asked her out for another date she told me that she that she was very busy and stressed out with her final exams, and that she couldn't go out until they were over.
After her exams, I saw her again. She told me that she finally had time for our date and was looking forward to it. I told her I would call the next day with the details, but she said I couldn't because she moved out of her parents' house and that she now temporarily lives with a girlfriend; therefore, she would call me. She then asked me for my phone number again because she left it at her parents' house.
Well, surprise - I never received a phone call. Apparently, she had gone on vacation and even though she is now back, I haven't received her call. It has been about three weeks since I've seen or heard from her. I don't have her new phone number so I can't call her myself.
Is this girl still interested in me? If not, then why would she flirt with me and tell me she wants to go out? Why would she ask for my phone number again and tell me she would call me if she had no intentions of doing so? She could have easily said that she didn't have time or she just could have not mentioned it at all.
Please tell me what you think of this. I would be very grateful!
Trevor - who wants to know if he's getting the run-around

Advice for Single Guys from Success Coach - Doc Love

WOMEN DON'T LIE - MEN DON'T LISTEN

Hi Trevor,

Whew! This girl has more excuses than Johnnie Cochran has police conspiracy theories!

Seriously, the number of times she lost your number was evidence enough that her Interest Level for you was lower than whale fertilizer. If she had the number of a guy she actually liked, she would have tattooed the digits on her stomach to prevent her from losing it!

And if attempting to break your date so she could see her friends was bad enough, asking you to tag along was - as my cousin Rabbi Love would say - "Pure Chutzpah!" In this way, she could play with her buddies and make a fool of you at the same time (I have to give you kudos though for showing a backbone and getting the "N" word {no} out. Obviously, she acted nervous afterward - she was pouting over the way you busted her on her brazen act of disrespect!).

Even though your girl acted excited at times, it means nothing. She may be on drugs - or more likely: she's campaigning for an Academy Award in the "Faking High Interest Level" category.

Contrary to the way you and many other men have been brainwashed, love is not complicated. When a woman likes you, she goes out with you - period. There are no conditions, curve balls, no need for her to call back, nor surprises. Consistency is the MO of a woman with a good attitude and high Interest Level. Sadly, Trevor, the only thing your woman is consistent about is her excuses.

So, why would a sane woman spend so much time and energy just to waste your time? Well, look at it this way: all women are born flirts; but while most of them only enjoy seeing trying to get a reaction from guys they like, a small sociopathic minority enjoys male strokes so much that they flirt with all guys, even those that mean absolutely nothing to them. To them, toying with a man's affections is nothing but pure entertainment. The problem is, when guys take this game seriously, their hearts get beat up.

Thankfully, The "System" is there to help. It's a screening process that saves you time and protects your heart from game players. If you had followed it consistently, Trevor, you would have thrown this girl out of your life the first time she asked you to e-mail her. That's OK - you'll know for the next time.

Guys, when a woman acts like she likes you half of the time and acts cold the other half (before you are married!), it's a huge red flag. As my cousin Fast Eddie Love would say: "Next!"

To send me your love questions or to find out more about The "System," visit me at www.doclove.com or call (800) 404-2644.

Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars. For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with one man versus another?"

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