Hi Parker,

You did the right thing when you let her do all the touching. When most guys meet a woman they're interested in, they're immediately all over her like cheese on pizza, mistakenly thinking that they will raise the woman's interest level by being Mister Touchy Feely. Actually the opposite is true.

When you hold back and refrain from touching her at all, you are seen as more alluring and more of a Challenge. If you keep putting your hands on her, you inhibit her desire to touch you. When you don't touch her, she gives you points for being distinctly different from the rest of her salivating suitors who invade her space.

But let's back up a little bit. The fundamentally positive point here Parker is that this gal was touching you. You could have had the cooties, but she didn't care! Listen guys; when you first meet a woman and you begin to spend a little time with her, one of the most important signs of her high Interest Level that you must look for, is some form of touching on her part. It might just be a tap on the shoulder or a bump of the elbow, but any small amount of touching is often a big deal. Most of the time, women who are not interested in you will not touch you at all, and women who are interested in you, will touch you, at least in some way.

Let me break it down further for you for more clarity. The "System" says that there are basically three types of Touchers:

1. Women who touch everyone: Universal Touchers (10%)
2. Women who touch and mislead because that's all you are going to get: Strokers (10%)
3. Women who touch because they have high Interest Level (80%).

Also Parker, it's good that you two laughed a lot on your first date. That means you stayed off the heavy subjects. The average guy wants to reveal the entire story of his frustrated life before his date has finished her appetizer. He acts as if he's having a session with a $150 an hour therapist where he'd better spill his guts out as fast as he can to be sure he gets his money's worth. Unwittingly he is lowering his date's Interest Level by destroying any sense of mystery, which is extremely crucial in the first 60 days of the relationship.

Now let me tell you Parker, that you did make two crucial mistakes. First of all, you should have asked her for her home phone number when you first met her, so you could have judged her Interest Level. The idea is to watch and see if she hems and haws or not when you ask her for the number. So you missed a valuable opportunity because you didn't take control from the get go.

It amazes me how many men have about as much confidence as a wounded snail when it comes to being direct and simply saying: "What's your home phone number?" When you say those five magic words to her, you not only receive immediate valuable feedback, but it's also the stronger, more masculine thing to do.

Instead, Parker, you took a weaker approach and went through her girlfriend. Fortunately, in this rare instance, your girlfriend's girlfriend actually helped you. But more often than not, friends are undependable, or misconstrue what really is going on.

Your other mistake was going out with her friends again. It's tough enough to rate Interest Level in the beginning stages when you are alone with a girl, but with a crowd, it 's darn near impossible. She could have been putting on a show for them or she might have been inhibited by them and would have been even more demonstrative if you were alone together. We don't know, but we should. The good part is that she continued touching you.

This girl is too new to rate but it appears that if you call and get a third rendezvous you'll be in the running. But this time make it a one on one date. No more double dating for now. Just make sure that by the end of the next date, you kiss her or at least try to. If she responds affectionately, you'll know that her Interest Level in you is on the high side rather than the low side. If she turns her head and gives you "the cheek", you should write her off and move on, my brother.

Remember guys, first and foremost, be bold and direct. Ask for the home phone number with no apologies, which shows her you have confidence.