Hi Doc,
Mario - who wants to know if she's a good catch
Let's look at the positives. The fact that she is comfortable and fun around you shows that she likes you (women with low Interest Level are always uncomfortable and never have fun). Your girl's smiles are also extremely encouraging. Why? Because the woman smiles in proportion to how much she likes you (Just make sure that her smiles never turn into snarls!). Her complimentary e-mails are also good indicators of high Interest Level (Let's hope they keep coming!). Last, her independence caused her to ask you out (Hooray for Independent Women! Imagine that - I'm siding with the Feministas!).
Don't be concerned about Miss Right waiting four dates before telling you about Junior. It merely says that she's a private person. During the first four dates, you two were just starting to get to know each other therefore, she was under no obligation to tell you about her family life. (If she hadn't told you about her small fry by the fourth date, you could be sure she was guilty of a grievous crime of omission.) She wanted to make sure she liked you. To me, it's a sign of a good mother.
We know that Miss Right has had high Interest Level in you for the four weeks that you've dated her. Our next step is to check her attitude. The sad fact is - she has had some bad experiences with a few key men in her life. What we want to know is if her resentment toward the perpetrators of past crimes will be directed at you some day.
If this girl has a truckload of man-hatred hidden away in her psyche, she will eventually dump it on your head, and you'll have to walk away from her forever. On the other hand, if her case of resentment is only superficial; and you play it cool and never crowd her, then she will soon realize that you are not like the male rats from her past - and she will cling to you like a koala bear hugs its favorite tree.
Yes, Mario, you should wait and let her come to you. In the meantime, continue asking for other home phone numbers until she tells you that you changed her view of men. You'll know this day has arrived when she tells you she loves you.
By the way, when she says that she doesn't want to get married, tell her you feel the same way - then continue practicing The "System." Pretty soon, she will start staring at engagement rings in the jewelry store window as you walk through the mall together. If she doesn't do this, then you can be sure that she's sworn off marriage.
With the amount of time you've spent with this girl, Mario, she is really too new to rate; but she strikes me as a good girl who just got some bad breaks. Watch her like a hawk; notice how she handles pressure and stress, and observe how she negotiates with you during your first disagreement. If Miss Right continues to act in the same sweet manner that she has for the first four dates, then as my Uncle Jethro Love would say: "I reckon she's a keeper."
Remember guys - after the first few months comes the really big job: keeping her mesmerized over the long haul.
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